I am so happy for you and your family to be in your home. I know you will make it work. You are doing a phenomenal job, both of you! Get more rest, and you'll be more relaxed, and the children will feel it and respond to it. Your house is perfect looking, but life, friends, family, and churched folk aren't. Accept life as it is. You already are practicing one of the most important, learned skills: a grateful heart. When you're overly tired, overwhelmed, and hurting, don't be afraid to scoop up your little ones when they are misbehaving into your arms, and just let out all your tears. As young as they are, they will pick up very quickly that they have hurt mommy. Just love 'em, hug 'em, hold 'em, and cry. Allowing them to see that mommy has feelings, and she can be hurt by their acting out is not only okay, it can be effective. By loving them through it without holding back your own tiredness and hurt, you will be teaching them a valuable lesson about the love of a family. I know. I've been there. I can't stress enough your getting your rest.
The best and only book on children I recommend is Dr. Rudolph Dreikur's book, "Children the Challenge". Unfortunately, in recent years it has been doctored up with more modern theories of ineffective parenting. If anyone can locate the pre-doctored edition, they would be doing you an immense favor to get it to you.
Also, make time for yourself every day. Let the little ones know that during their quiet time, it is also mommy's quiet time, and they need to respect that. I, too, have run a home daycare. I didn't care about toys strewn around our livingroom. And at nap time, I held one of the babies in my care in my arms and rocked us both to sleep. I always made sure my little ones had proper winter gear because I had them outdoors as soon as breakfast was over. They need fresh air and exercise, all day long :) Breakfast was always a small bowl of hot oatmeal cereal w/ brown sugar, a spot of butter, milk, juice, scrambled eggs with grated cheese, and fruit cut up into pieces. Whatever leftovers we had, and I made sure we always did, I left on the table for the children to eat as they wanted.
Children going through growing spurts have hollow legs, and if not fed protein, they will be cantankerous, get ow-ies more frequently. 2 of my 4 children had very high metabolisms from birth, and growing spurts meant I had better cook up a lot of protein, or just not bother leaving the kitchen.
Hope this helps Courtnee. I also highly recommend Dr. Laura Schlessinger's books on marriage. I find her daily program on KVI 570AM radio dial from 9am-12pm a source of strength to me.
Mazel tov on your hard-earned home! My best to you and Mike, bless his heart! What a trooper he has turned out to be, a real mensch! From, One of your MANY! admiring friends, Tzippy
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Wow! Your home is beautiful!
Congratulations!
Courtnee & Family, Your house is gorgeous! We're going to have to make a trip over real soon to visit!! ~Cori
Its beautiful and well deserved. Rachael
Your house is beauiful! I know you will be happy there for many years to come. Lots of room to watch your kids grow.
GORGEOUS home!!!!
I am so happy for you and your family to be in your home. I know you will make it work. You are doing a phenomenal job, both of you! Get more rest, and you'll be more relaxed, and the children will feel it and respond to it. Your house is perfect looking, but life, friends, family, and churched folk aren't. Accept life as it is. You already are practicing one of the most important, learned skills: a grateful heart. When you're overly tired, overwhelmed, and hurting, don't be afraid to scoop up your little ones when they are misbehaving into your arms, and just let out all your tears. As young as they are, they will pick up very quickly that they have hurt mommy. Just love 'em, hug 'em, hold 'em, and cry. Allowing them to see that mommy has feelings, and she can be hurt by their acting out is not only okay, it can be effective. By loving them through it without holding back your own tiredness and hurt, you will be teaching them a valuable lesson about the love of a family. I know. I've been there. I can't stress enough your getting your rest.
The best and only book on children I recommend is Dr. Rudolph Dreikur's book, "Children the Challenge". Unfortunately, in recent years it has been doctored up with more modern theories of ineffective parenting. If anyone can locate the pre-doctored edition, they would be doing you an immense favor to get it to you.
Also, make time for yourself every day. Let the little ones know that during their quiet time, it is also mommy's quiet time, and they need to respect that. I, too, have run a home daycare. I didn't care about toys strewn around our livingroom. And at nap time, I held one of the babies in my care in my arms and rocked us both to sleep. I always made sure my little ones had proper winter gear because I had them outdoors as soon as breakfast was over. They need fresh air and exercise, all day long :) Breakfast was always a small bowl of hot oatmeal cereal w/ brown sugar, a spot of butter, milk, juice, scrambled eggs with grated cheese, and fruit cut up into pieces. Whatever leftovers we had, and I made sure we always did, I left on the table for the children to eat as they wanted.
Children going through growing spurts have hollow legs, and if not fed protein, they will be cantankerous, get ow-ies more frequently. 2 of my 4 children had very high metabolisms from birth, and growing spurts meant I had better cook up a lot of protein, or just not bother leaving the kitchen.
Hope this helps Courtnee. I also highly recommend Dr. Laura Schlessinger's books on marriage. I find her daily program on KVI 570AM radio dial from 9am-12pm a source of strength to me.
Mazel tov on your hard-earned home! My best to you and Mike, bless his heart! What a trooper he has turned out to be, a real mensch!
From,
One of your MANY! admiring friends,
Tzippy
Oh Courtnee it's beautiful! I know it's been a LONG time coming...I can't believe it's finally done!
WOOHOO!
Call me COURTS!
JEN from AFM
LOVE TO YOU, Mike, LIL and babes!
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